Keilana Kids Around Vol. 2

Mama, I swallowed my gum ‘cuz my leg hurts. 

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While Lover is tickling me, “mama, say no thank you!” I did! “Say it youder!”

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Mama, you’re my best fwiend.

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Blowing on the window: “see my hah?”

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Daddy: Oh, you scraped your leg up real good didn’t you?

KK: No! I scraped it real bad!”

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Mama, can you take the turny round thing out of the apple?

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(holding a hanger) Look at my hooker!

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putting her hands up to her face like binoculars “See my lookers?”

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KK: Mommy, I chopped the drawer thing off!

Me: Oh no, how will we open the drawer now?

KK: With a screwdriver!

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New Nightstands and Lamps…

Last time I posted about the master bedroom was a couple of months ago, and since then I’ve been doing a little bit of shopping, a whole lot of planning and a bit of talking all of it over with Lover. I feel like I have a solid direction, and it’s all starting to come together.

Initially, I was going to basically start from scratch. I was sure that pretty much the only thing I liked in the room was the bed frame and mattress, and I was starting over with everything else. But, the more I thought about it, the more I realized that I needed to identify what was working and what wasn’t, otherwise I would just be in the same position a year from now – new stuff but same old problems.

I have a Pinterest board for this house,  https://www.pinterest.com/jennywendhurst/amherst/  and I’ve been slowly pinning a few different images that really jump out at me with the feel that I am going for in our room. I spent some time a couple of weeks ago trying to narrow down what exactly the repeating elements are in the rooms I am drawn to, and this is what I came up with.

  • TEXTURE: I really, really, really LOVE texture. It’s the reason I am drawn to wicker and baskets and fur and leather and crocheted things. You know how mid-century modern furniture is all smooth lines and straight glossy finishes? SO not me.
  • SHEER: I love the way that light is diffused through sheer things like lace, translucent glass, decorative screens, etc. It makes the light so soft and etheral… it’s my favorite.
  • MOMENTS: In the decorating world these are called “vignettes”, basically they are little corners or spots in your room where all the elements come together to make a beautiful picture.
  • WOOD, especially CARVED WOOD: I love the warmth and life that stained wood brings to a room, and if it’s carved then I can just die right there happy forever.
  • INTERESTING LIGHTING: I feel like lighting is like jewelry, it can take a calm and simple room and make it something really fun and original. I’m always on the lookout for a light that stands out a little bit and announces itself.
  • METALLICS: otherwise known as ooh, shiny! Anything that has sparkle, shine or glitter instantly becomes attractive to me. Too much makes a room feel like Vegas, but the right amount brings life and light into the room.
  • MOROCCAN: I don’t know how long I will like this style, but currently I am loving all of the intricacies and pattern of Moroccan decor. Their punched metal lanterns (interesting lighting! sheer! texture!) make me want to fill the ceiling with an enormous collection of lanterns!! Please tell me this is a good idea!
  • PLANTS: Something I did not realize is that just about every image I save has some kind of plant life in it. Plants make the room come alive and make it feel dynamic. I’m not the best at keeping plants alive, but winter always gives me the desire to try again, so I’m on the lookout for some low maintenance plants for our room.

 

 

 

I spent some serious time this week cleaning out our room and moving a few things around. I feel like I have found a really good starting point. In this picture you can see that I spruced up those nightstands I mentioned in the last post, and also found these lantern/lamp/jewels to dress up said nightstands. I found them at Hobby Lobby for $70 for the pair. They are a mercury glass on the inside and a dark metal on the outside, with a moroccan pattern in the metal. (Metallic! Diffused light! Moroccan!)

 

After thinking on it for a while, I think what this wall really needs is something to draw the eye up. The nightstands are a much better proportion to the bed now, and they allow the bed to have some breathing room on this wall, which I really like. But now everything is the same height, which makes it all fall a little flat. So I played around in Photoshop for a bit and came up with a couple of options.

I feel like the headboard needs to have some kind of curve, to break up all of the straight lines on this wall. I also want some kind of soft, upholstered headboard, since so often I come in here to read, or I’m up in the middle of the night nursing a baby or what have you, and I want to be comfy! I’ve seen so many fun and interesting headboard ideas, but ultimately I want this room to be comfy and cozy, so upholstered it is.

I like this idea, but I feel like it still falls a little flat. Just too simple and yet another horizontal row with the headboard breaking things up a little. It still doesn’t draw your eye up too much. So then I tried this.

I like this a lot more. The headboard is a little taller and a little bit more interesting, and I like the contrast of a dark fabric. And the big vertical frame gives the whole wall some height and draws the eye up. I have so many pictures I have taken over the years, so one of them converted into black and white and in a nice frame will look great, methinks. I played around in Photoshop with adding something above the nightstands too, kind of halfway up the frame height wise, but I’m unsure about that. I’ll have to play around with it some more. Maybe some cool wall planters with some trailing plants? Some felt wall flowers?

 

 

 

I swapped the dresser so that it’s on the wall opposite the bed, and tucked the chair in the corner. I like the furniture arrangement a lot better, it just all needs some tweaking. I may still paint the dresser, or get a new cushion for the chair, or get a different chair entirely. I’ll just keep fussing with it little by little until it comes together. I definitely want to order a frame for our painting, to give it a little more presence on that wall. And I’m still deciding on new paint colors in here, I figure I’ll get a headboard and get the rest of the furniture right and then decide on paint colors.

I had pretty much made up my mind to get new curtains in here, but decided on a whim to add these sheer ones I bought a while ago (I think for our balcony in the apartment we got when we moved here?) and just see how they looked. I really like them. They’re light and airy and diffuse the light nicely, but they don’t get in the way at night when I want total darkness.

So that’s where things stand in our master. We didn’t end up getting the shower fixed in our ensuite due to some other issues that came up, but we did get around to refinishing the vanity and installing a new sinktop and faucet that I LOVE. I need to touch up the drywall and install the backsplash and then I will show you. It’s SO PRETTY! And the marble has sparkles. So now you KNOW that I love it. Sorry about all the caps. :) Til next time!

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Counting My Blessings

I’ve been writing a lot of blog posts in my head lately. I’ve even occasionally sat down to start writing some of them, but those are all half finished. Our fall has been incredibly full, and on the days when we are home, it seems like there is always so much to do. Not the least of which is chase after the Three Musketeers, who never stop moving and never leave a room untouched by their loving gentle hands. I love these three so much, and they make my days so full. I want to remember these days when they are all grown and gone, and I’ll think to myself, what were those years really like? So I keep telling myself that I need to sit down (ha!) and record some of what’s been happening lately, so I don’t forget. And I am trying to make the time to do that.

There are seasons of my life when I don’t notice a lot of growth. Sure, I might be relearning  some good lessons, but it’s not a season of challenges that force me to become a better version of myself. This fall has not been one of those seasons. :)

There have been multiple things that have been stretching me lately. We tried out a new Bible Study this fall, and while I loved the study, the timing and location didn’t work out for us. Halfway through October I called it quits. For several years of my life (mostly teens) I would join things, not like the way they were going, and decide to quit. And then I realized that quitting was maybe not the most mature way to handle myself, and so in my twenties I really pushed myself to live up to my commitments, no matter how stressed or burnt out that made me. Now, in my thirties, I’m trying to find some balance. I need to honor my commitments, but I also need to be realistic when something is not working. And as long as it is not a rash, emotional decision, then it’s okay to say “this is not working for me, I need to step out.” I’m also learning to make A LOT fewer commitments. I have the type of personality where I am terrible about signing myself up for way more than I can actually handle in a sane way. So I am really trying to think, pray and talk to Lover before I jump into the next thing with no forethought.

 

I also started working on a couple of new sources of income this fall. I’m renting out our house on AirBnB, and I am reselling things on eBay. I’ve prayed for a couple of years that God would give me an opportunity to make a little money on the side without impacting my time at home with the kids. I love doing photography, but the scheduling and editing photos, etc doesn’t really work for me in this season of life. I still do shoots for friends, but that’s about it. What I love about eBay is that when I have the time I shop for things I can resell (and I can shop with the kids!) and then list them on eBay, and when we are having a busy week or a sick week or whatever, I leave it all alone and pick it up when I have time. You’d be amazed at the things people will pay good money for! And AirBnb, while it is a lot more work, and schedule dependent, has been great because while we are staying in a hotel my only responsibility is spending time with the kids. It’s been great for our family time.

God has also been teaching me so much lately. It’s hard to put into words, but it’s been an interesting mix of learning to be courageous while also learning more vulnerability. I have such a tendency to run from things that challenge me, and also to run from people or situations that require vulnerability. Basically my default is running. Not physically, mind you, because I think actual running is crazy pants, but mentally and emotionally.

 

Instead I am learning to open up, be honest about what I am thinking and feeling, and let people in. Having kids has been great for me, especially three kids, because I can no longer pretend that I have it all together and all under control. That’s simply a blatant lie. I forget things, my house is well loved and lived in, and my kids often look like scraggly ragamuffins. Oh and the days they dress themselves? Fuhgeddaboudit. That usually means snow boots in summer, black socks with sandals or even two unmatched shoes. Crazy hair sticking out in every direction, and probably some kind of marker or paint on their faces. I always swore I would not be the mom with the daughter with a crazy head of hair. And then I got the girl with the cloud of crazy curls who prefers the “natural” look and can only be coaxed into having it combed and tamed maybe once a week. I believe so strongly in raising my kids to be individuals, who are confidant and able to express themselves. And one of the ways they do that at these ages is through their clothes and hair, so I try my hardest to let them be themselves, no matter how much my inner control freak may be losing it. I did have to draw the line at black knee socks and sandals though. A girl can only be so flexible!

 

And I am finding that as I let go of the need to control every motion and expression that my kids make, I’m letting go of that need within myself. I’m finding it easier to talk about my shortcomings, and about the ways that God fills in those gaps. Because the amazing thing is, when I am honest about where I fall short, it’s easier to see how willing and eager my heavenly Father is to step in and lift me up.

 

So that’s where I am at right now. Learning to set boundaries, and to stand firm in my convictions. To open up to those around me, and let them in. To let go of my desire to be in control of all things and all people.  And learning that God does not judge me for my shortcomings, but in fact welcomes them because it gives Him a chance to extend his grace and his strength to me.

But enough about me. :0) What have you been learning?

jenny

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